How can I control my temper Its out of hand!?!?

okay I'm a nice person don't get me wrong! but when I get upset I don't know how and can't control my temper. I don't want answers such as take deep breaths and count to ten that does nothing for me but make me more upset. I tried writing in a journal but I'm a perfectionist so if it were messy i would tear the whole page out + I get really upset when I didn't write in it everyday. But I would be willing to try it again.My parents both have very bad tempers themselves to. I'm calling tomorrow for family counseling. This is a very serious question please do leave rude or unhelpful comments Thanks.How can I control my temper Its out of hand!?!?
What you need is a distraction.


I have the same issues with my temper, but I tend to get verbally abusive. On a rare occasion, I have the tendency to become physical as well.


Now, what I do is I have a hobby or an activity that I can channel my anger into. I actually have a few, myself.


I draw. Alot! I have sketchbooks full of drawings. At least twenty. It helps a little. When I draw, I don't have to worry about anybody judging me or making fun of my work. It's mine and nobody else's and I find solace in that.


My other activity is MMA. Because, there is no better way to vent frustration where the slightest mistake can send you hurtling across the room with your fist ready... than being Allowed to do such a thing. I take all of my anger, all of mu frustration and sorrow and pain and I channel it into my fists for three or four rounds. Plus, I get a good workout, so plus!


What I can suggest is exercise, rest and to find a hobby that you truly find enjoyable. Exercise has been scientifically tested and proven to relieve stress. Sleep, as well. Not naps, but actual REM sleep.


That's all I've got. I hope I have helped in at least a small way.How can I control my temper Its out of hand!?!?
Well done for going to family counselling and realising you have a problem.


If this doesn't work out there are some groups around who offer 'anger management' courses, often in groups so that people can share experiences and tactics and one of those may be another option. Your gp may know of some which run locally or keep your eyes open for posters in places like libraries, church run coffee shops etc.


Good luck.
I think it is good that you are seeking family counselling, especially as you are surrounded by angry people. It is difficult to switch off from them, which will make you angry and react.


Do you suffer from PMT? does your anger get worse at that time? Think about these things and get some help.


You need to find out what is making you angry. I know you may not believe this, but getting good exercise, and breathing DOES help, but you need to talk to someone first. Good luck.
Think about the person you love most when you get angry.


That do work for me.


Maybe that will help you too.


Try it.
As much as you don't want to hear this I would say pray to God. From my experience he has helped me keep my temper and not go off on people.
Why would you want people to leave rude or unhelpful comments? That is what your last sentence says.


Is this a typo?
The parent situation is your first problem because you are in tuned to it ,because it's in your face and you don't like what you see.What you need to do for yourself is to tune out and tune in, to yourself.Do simple exercises like,in your own mind tell yourself ,I am me I am not like them,I have no desire to be like them,I am my own person, I can change anything about myself with Gods help, with out Him I can do nothing.No one in this world is perfect ,neither am I,however I work towards perfection,also find your comfort zone or area where you have a peace of mind. Hope this helps.
I know you do not want to be told to take a deep breath and count to ten etc as I know from my own experience this does not help when the anger takes over.





I too have issues controlling my anger and I always thought this was not normal and hated it when people told me to calm down. I went to my doctor and told him that I felt there was something else going on. I was taken seriously and was diagnosed with a personality disorder. I am not saying that you have a personality disorder, far from it hun but what I am finding helps me and can help you and others with anger issues is Mindfulness skills. Google this on the internet...





Take care and I hope family therapy helps.